My father had always been my biggest supporter and most incredible source of inspiration. A man who taught me how to live and love (After all he lived up to his name- PREM). He was the one whose life I reflect on and learn these life lessons from. Hopefully, some of these lessons will come in handy for you, too:
Help people at any available opportunity
My father was a man who was always ready to help others- relatives/neighbors/business partner or any unknown person in need. Many a times when I noticed that people are taking advantage of his helpful nature, I used to tell him not to help. But he never listened and continued helping.
Now with time, I have realized how correct he was. We humans usually tend towards selfishness rather than generosity, on helping ourselves rather than helping our brothers and sisters in humanity. But, when we set our sight on helping others, everything we do is fixed in a positive direction. I believe he had also seen that this activates success in his life, and this is why he always spoke of unconditional service as he does; as the first step towards feeling immeasurable, abounding joy.
The Simplest Things in Life are Always the Best
He was a simple man and preferred Simple Living & High Thinking.
I still remember the time when I was a kid and had put on lip-color for a family function. He made sure I remove it before reaching the function. (Lol! How funny I would have looked).
He always used to say- Make up is fake and Simplicity is eternal. Wear your smile as it looks better than lip-color.☺
Girls can, too.
With two older sisters and my mom, my father lived in a female-dominant household. (You can imagine how submissive he would have been :p). He made sure three of us have excellent education, no matter how hard he had to work for it, how far he had to accompany us for competitive exams. He never considered us any less than a son. We had enough freedom to drive a car, to manage our own finances, to choose our career or to choose a life partner. He never focused on “Char Log Kya Kahenge”.
Do not save what is left after SPENDING, but spend what is left after SAVING
Just like any other kid, we also had our separate piggy banks during childhood. He taught us the difference between need and extravagance which we learned to call financial discipline.
Today I am happy I am not a part of the crowd who derive a pseudo pleasure of financial independence by ostentatious display of ‘brand’ rather I belong to a group of people who respects the efforts that goes into earning a penny and believes in minimizing wasteful expenses.
Health is wealth
I: “Papa! Why don’t you open a confectionery shop? I want to eat lots of candies and chocolates”
He (Being in business of fruits): “Fruits are good for health. You are lucky that you are getting such good quality fruits to eat. Appreciate that”
I: “Papa, why don’t you buy a car? All parents drop their kids to school by car. It does not look nice to walk to school (especially during rainy season)”
He: “Walking is good for health dear, enjoy the weather”.
I completely understand now that why so many words he said concerned my health. Being in a corporate job where I have to sit and work for long hours, I realized how important it is to have a healthy body and healthy mind. This is the reason why I feel agony & guilt when I go days without fruits or miss stairs while going to board metro.
Don’t you dare give up
After battling cancer for 2 years, He passed away on April 2, 2016.
It’s much easier to give up than taking a challenging path, he taught us not to lose hope. Waking up every morning and greeting each day with a smile would have taken a lot of courage for him.
Here I would like to mention the efforts put in by my mother in supporting him each day. I am sure her dedication and hard work towards his health made the treatment a little less painful.
Today is his Birthday. I won’t say he is not with us.
He is here with us, in our hearts, he is living through his daughters and his wife.
What Cancer Cannot Do
Cancer is so limited..
It cannot cripple love
It cannot shatter hope
It cannot silence courage
It cannot destroy confidence
It cannot erode faith
It cannot kill friendship
It cannot destroy peace
It cannot suppress memories
It cannot erode the spirit
It cannot steal eternal life
It cannot conquer the soul.
Founder Tickled Pink | Social Activist | Spreading Smiles